I wrote and submitted an article about LinkedIn on one of my group pages. Amidst the long lines of comments, one person repeatedly talked about how she doesn’t use LinkedIn because she sees no value in it (and this is on LinkedIn!).
A customer rails against my comments as I taught a mature jobseekers workshop, the only person who had any negative comments afterward. Nothing specifically was mentioned about what he felt needed changing (other than the class needing a new facilitator).
After writing an article praising our Lead Support Group for my agency in honor of Administrative Professionals Day, I got a response saying that one person in the team had been replaced and was no longer on the team.
Why is it that there always seems to be somebody in the crowd to cry fowl?
I gave some information in a job club last week, using some of my personal background as an example of the point I was trying to establish. I received many thanks for my comments afterward, saying hearing my own previous struggles helped them greatly. I did not share anything “over the line,” as it were, but I still got called into the principal’s office because I shared personal information.
I have learned to ignore much of the naysayers in the crowd. Some people must feel this is the way to stand out—put down while others build up. I believe they do it just to receive attention. They definitely get their reward then.
Jane Austen wrote that sometimes people can get no happiness in their lives other than the perverse satisfaction of robbing happiness from others. People hear a compliment or a positive remark and may remember it, but if side by side with a negative remark, the negative will be the one remembered and retained. I once heard it takes seven positive statements to equal the impact of one negative. Thus those who take the “bad guy” get remembered and talked about. But do they get positive results?
One place where negativity is in no way successful is in job search. My large and growing caseload is full of such examples: those who have a negative attitude, find excuses, use the word can’t and speak ill of others, don’t get anywhere. Those who stay positive, find a way, use the word can and resist adapting a victim mentality are the ones who get back to work.
- Five ways to demonstrate good character on LinkedIn (edenchanges.wordpress.com)