I am taking voice lessons. One lesson involves me moving seamlessly from a very high note to a very low note without growling. I practice in my living room and can get it right, but as soon as I sing in front of my teacher, I croak!
She smiles, and tells me to just relax and let it come naturally. I encounter problems when I anticipate them coming. I strain to hit the right notes, fearing I will miss them, and the strain ruins the sound. I lose my voice.
The moral of the story? Stop fighting myself!
A close friend has been mostly unemployed for the past two years or so. He is severely depressed to the point of debilitation. When I try to advise him on a course of action, he resists. He’s too tired. He cannot afford it. He gets frustrated with not understanding how things work. A mutual friend tells me he’s the most negative person she’s ever encountered.
Who is standing in his way?
How does the old saying go? The journey of a thousand miles begins with a single step? Sometimes taking that single step is the hardest part. Why? Because we don’t know what will happen when we do. We might fail. We might fall. Or we might build some momentum.
There’s nothing like the feeling of gliding over a piece of music, as my teacher says, when I’m blissfully unaware of the stumbling blocks that might otherwise trip me up. Just relax– and let it come out!