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A Jobseeker’s Delicate Balance: Self Confidence or Egotism?

ImageGood self-seteem is an art, an art of balance.When jobseeking you have to be confident in your skills, but not think too much of yourself.

The word for the latter is egotism. We are taught to recoil from this in horror. If we see people exhibiting this trait (unless it’s countered by major smooth-talking likability), we mutter under our breath, “Boy that person really is full of himself, isn’t he?” and tend to disdain him. As for ourselves, we are not used to thinking of self as being particularly special. No wonder we have a hard time convincing an employer of our worth– we aren’t trained to see it ourselves!

So how do you keep that balance and still get a job?

First, start an exhaustive list of all the skills you’ve accumulated, in your previous jobs, in school, volunteering, anywhere. Ask friends, colleagues and family for help on this. This will help you see that you have worth. But at the same time, as you’re paying more attention to your increasing self-worth, pay attention to the worth and strengths of others around you. Heighten your view of them as being part of a world full of wonderful people, yourself among them.

(SOURCE: Richard N. Bolles, What Color Is Your Parachute? Job-Hunters Workbook, 4th ed.)




About kimberlyjmyers

I am a workforce development professional in Washington State. I have ten years experience working with dislocated workers, vocationally impaired, and people with disabilities on many levels and backgrounds from offenders to non-English speaking refugees from around the world. The One thing the clients I have worked with all had in common: there was some barrier to employment, and I work diligently every day to identify, address and remove those barriers.


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